Friday, February 20, 2015

Somebody's Party

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Learning to enjoy your own company can be difficult. Being in your own company can be complete torture sometimes; your thoughts can wander and race and you can't get control of your mind. People can cause so many unnecessary problems for themselves by trying to escape themselves and their thoughts. Some will even drink excessively or turn to drugs in order to silence a voice in their mind that won't shut up. We all have it to some degree. It's that voice that tells you you're not good enough. Some people rarely hear it, others hear it after any tiny mistake they make, and some can rarely find moments where they are free from it.

Learning to accept and forgive yourself is so simple and yet so difficult. You have to accept that you are not perfect and never will be, but also make a conscious effort to improve that which you don't like about yourself. Stop hating yourself for all that you have done wrong; understand that everyone makes mistakes. Be your own best friend; learn to be kind to yourself by regulating your thoughts and emotions. When you find your mind spiraling in the wrong direction find a way to feel appreciation for something, no matter how big or small. Find a way to focus on that feeling for as long as possible and carry that with you as long as you can throughout your day.

Photos by my amazing friend Wendie Cusator <3
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Friday, February 13, 2015

Freedom

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The concept of freedom is something that has frustrated me a lot these past few years. Who has it? Does anyone have it? Do we all have it? How do I get it? Am I really free to do and be whatever I want and if not how do I attain that freedom? I find that feelings of restriction, confinement, and helplessness are almost always at the root of unhappiness. To me, freedom is the equivalent of happiness. Freedom is empowerment in its highest form. The freedom to be what you want, to do what you want, to say what you want, and just be are often thought of as having to be earned or given but in actuality it is yours to take at any moment.

The quickest way to find freedom is to silence everything around you. Find a way to be one with the present moment. Don't worry about tomorrow, the next minute or second; focus on where you are right now, where you have been and where you are going. Feel appreciation for how far you have come, how much your life has progressed and how the beautiful journey ahead will allow you to grow that much more. In this moment you might feel your heart swell and get light and fluttery. Your mind will clear completely and your eyes may even begin to water from relief. You should feel proud, humble and an overwhelming sense of hopefulness and gratitude. This is how I find freedom within myself and it empowers me to find and search for the freedom in all other aspects of my life.

Please understand that whatever your current situation is and however powerless you feel to the circumstances of your life, you have complete power and freedom to not be controlled by it. You are free as long as you choose to be.

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Friday, February 6, 2015

Finding Your Focus

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Losing your focus can be just what you need sometimes. It's like doing a really difficult math problem and spending hours trying to solve it. You try to calculate this way, then another, then another way, then backtrack and reverse and are finally left with nothing to do but stare blankly at the frustrating assortment of numbers in defeat hoping some act of god will occur and strike you with the answer. In times like that, it's always good to take a breath. Take a short break and recuperate. Get distracted, let your mind wander and work on something else. Find a way to relieve the pent up stress and then promptly come back. Most times you will be able to see a new perspective and way of solving the problem.

Finding the answer may mean having to lose your focus for a brief moment. Finding the next step to take may mean having to walk away from the problem and then coming back to it. Take some time to be a little irresponsible and careless, but don't neglect your goals completely or for too long. Don't give up and don't lose sight of what you want. Relax, readjust, refocus on what you want and then keep going.

Photography by my lovely friend Linda
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