Saturday, December 20, 2014

The American Dream

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While I am in the process of chasing my own dreams, there is one thing I refuse to chase, and that is the American dream. What is the American dream? To some it is a beautiful house, a beautiful family and a new car. To other people it is wealth beyond their wildest dreams. We work so hard for all of these things that are supposed to make us happy. We sacrifice so much of our energy, spirit, and time doing things we don't enjoy in order to one day acquire the image of a happy life. Why can't you live a happy life today? What is stopping you?

One idea that has come to bother me a lot this past year is the idea of having to work yourself miserable in order to be worthy of the things that you want. What kind of nonsense is this? What is this idea of having to work harder than everyone else in order to be deserving of happiness? Yes, sometimes in order to get what you want, you have to work hard, sacrifice and even suffer, but to live a life of continuous stress in order to buy the latest phone and make your new car payments is beyond ridiculous. How are these things making you happy? How are they contributing to your overall well-being? Why are you trading your time, your spirit, and your peace of mind for these objects?

What is so terrible about sleeping in late when you feel tired, or moving slowly when you aren't in a rush to go anywhere? Why am I constantly being given the impression that I have to compete with everyone around me in order to be worthy of a happy life? I am living a happy life as we speak. I spend my time in a way that makes me happy and I refuse to feel guilty for doing this. This does not make me lazy or unambitious. I have my personal goals and priorities and I do what is necessary for them, yet I still find time to take care of my own emotional and spiritual needs. I live a balanced life and this is far more rewarding than anything an extra few dollars from working over-time will ever be able to buy me.

“But to believe that getting stuff is the purpose and aim of life is madness. ”
Hubert Selby Jr., Requiem for a Dream

Jacket - thrifted
Sleeveless Turtleneck - thrifted
Plaid Pants - Michael by Michael Kors
Combat Boots - Guess

Photos by Chris Wolfe
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Friday, December 5, 2014

Being Lost

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Many of us will reach points in our lives where we feel uncertain of just about everything. It's a strange time in one's life to reach this point. Sometimes you won't be sure of who you are, what you want, or where you are going. Sometimes you come to this awkward stand still and feel indifferent to almost everything. You feel almost numb. Things that were once exciting aren't anymore. Certain people aren't funny anymore. You don't even feel the same way when you listen to your favorite song.

Imagine hearing silence even though you are in a room full of bustling people. Everything is in fast forward and on mute. You are standing there without a clue as to what is exactly happening and all you can think to do is just observe and try to take it all in. You don't feel sad or in pain; just confused and frustrated by so many little things. It's like silent chaos. I think that is what it means to be lost.

 Everyone should go through a period like this at least once in their lives. It isn't a bad thing to be lost. It is a sign of you challenging your belief and value system and changing your general view of the world.  You are reassessing what is really important to you and what you want your life to be about. Something about the old way wasn't working anymore and instead of holding onto a failed system and philosophy to remain comfortable, you have decided to move forward in order to see truth.

 Life is about finding truth, but truth is always changing as life continues to evolve. You shouldn't always be certain of everything all time. Something that was once true yesterday, may not be so today. The most important thing about change is to surrender to it. Accept it. No matter how scary it may appear to be, you can't fight it. Fighting will make the process difficult and painful and no one wants that. Just trust and know somehow, some way, that this confusing period of transition is the best thing that could happen right now. You are evolving and growing into a better version of yourself. You are blessed.

Photos by Bryan Ocegueda
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